Seeing Fiona's feelings really struck a chord with me. Sometimes, the true pain is something only you can understand, and even your husband and mother can't empathize with it. In the first three months of pregnancy, I had severe nausea, and there were times I vomited until only bile was left. During the middle months, I would get numb hands and swollen legs after walking for less than ten minutes. In the last two or three months, my body felt disconnected, with back and waist pain. During the two days of labor, the contractions made me truly understand what it means to want to die; I could instantly understand why some pregnant women feel like jumping off a building. After I was dilated to ten centimeters, my husband stayed with me during delivery. By the end, I was almost out of strength, and it took five doctors plus him nearly two hours to get the baby out, with my belly turning completely purple from the pressure. Even after giving birth, it wasn't easy. On the first day, I couldn't get out of bed at all. Perhaps due to the anesthesia, I couldn't urinate for several hours and needed two people to help me endure the pain of getting out of bed to sit on the toilet for almost an hour. I had to feed the baby eight times a day, and when my husband wasn't around, I had to drive myself to the hospital with the postpartum caregiver during my confinement. There were so many hardships that I didn't know how to express. During this time, trading cryptocurrencies made it even harder to articulate my feelings. Every time I talked about projects, someone would say, "You should rest more since you're pregnant," but women, just like men, don't want to miss out when the market is booming. In the days leading up to the delivery, on the first night after getting the STBL, I was on induction medication, and the nurse told me to sleep early. The fear of possibly giving birth the next day mixed with the FOMO from STBL made my head spin. The next night, after giving birth and still feeling the effects of the anesthesia, there was also the Aster token launch and a meeting about interest rates. I wanted to manage everything perfectly, but my body wouldn't allow it. There are countless other examples; the interrupted sleep from breastfeeding made it hard for me to think and reflect properly. After becoming pregnant, I encountered some good fortune, like with Trump and WLFI, but there was also a lot of helplessness and chaos. I often found myself silently wiping away tears, and the hormonal changes made me intermittently lose my mind. My family and the caregiver advised against having a puppy at home right after giving birth, and I haven't seen my dog, whom I've raised for over five years, for almost a month. I feel like my love for children and pets is the same; it's hard to say I should give up this part for someone else. So, it's reasonable not to be prepared; it doesn't have to be a must. Women often suppress their own needs for the sake of family and their partners. I have many female friends who force themselves to forget their pain for love, and I don't understand why it has to be this way. Pain is pain, and difficulty is difficulty; we shouldn't say, "It's okay!" Having this child feels great, but the pain is real. Strength is our choice, not a necessity.
Although I still don't seem to really like the life with children, and I'm not looking forward to it, just thinking about it makes me scared. Even though I've been trying various methods like surrogacy and IVF with difficulty, it seems like I'm still compromising on my expectations of my partner within the marriage. I still prefer the life of just the two of us and a cat. Every time I see mothers tied down by children or a constrained life, I feel frustrated and fearful. It seems like no matter how much effort I put in, I can't completely convince myself.
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